It seems the whole baby thing has become the craze of our society.
In our society, we are engrained with the ideas of having babies.
We are taught from a very early age that having babies is the only route to take.
In fact, so many families teach their kids that getting married and then becoming barefoot and pregnant is the natural progression. In fact, the sooner the better in many families. But what if that is not what you want? What if everything that you have been taught from a very early age is so far from how you really feel?
There must be something in the water these days because so many couples are either having kids or will be having kids.
Our society is so adamant about it that as soon as you get married or begin dating someone, they automatically start to look for any signs of a child. Some even go out of their way to make it their business, especially when it has nothing to do with them. I guess that some family members feel that because they are family they can butt their noses in where they do not belong.
But what kind of message is that sending?
I mean these wishes for children as soon as possible, is this more or less coming from their own failed dreams. Maybe some people wish that they had more children and because they didn’t the place that on someone else.
In our society, those who do not have children are looked down upon with scorn. They are given the looks and then in private they are spoken of behind their backs.
Again, why is it any of their business?
It’s funny how as soon as you commit yourself to a person, everyone wants with baited breath for the first sign of impending pregnancy. Now I have nothing against having children I just find it interesting how its; become the rule rather than the exception. You could be with someone for five years and within those first few years you will get that voice saying “So, where are your kids? You have been together for a few years now. What are you waiting for?” It’s that dark voice coming from both outside and in telling you that you are not complete without a child.
That is what I have found so interesting is that so many believe that you are not complete without having a child in your life. If you don’t have children and yet you still look happy, than there is something wrong with you. What if you just don’t want to have children? What if you have never had the urge. Is there still something wrong with you? Others will look at you as if you are not capable of making the right choice and you have no idea what you are doing.
You are not a grown up until you decide to have a child. Until that moment comes, others will continue to question your choice.
Look at some of the parents out there who have children.
There are some that are completely miserable. There are some that never wanted to have kids and yet there was pressure from family and friends to go that route anyway. I have said it before and I will say it again. family and friends can put so much pressure on you to do things, that you just can’t see straight. There is sometimes so much pressure that you just do certain things just to shut them up!
When it comes to having kids, why are we the ones so often being treated like the baby?