We all have stress in our lives. Some of us are better at handling stress and anxiety better than others. It just depends in the type of person you are. With that being said I’m going to give you a few helpful suggestion on how to handle it.
Before I do, let me let you in on a little secret.
It’s not the easiest thing to do. I have been battling this for over 30 years. When I was younger I lived in a very stressful environment growing up. It also didn’t help matters that the only man that I had ever loved, my soul mate was taken from me at such a young age. Did this contribute to some of my stress soon after we were separated, yes. I just never knew it at the time.
I spent the next 30 some odd years living with anxiety and stress. Always questioning things, always wondering when the other shoe would drop. Does this sound familiar to any of you dear readers? I lived in an emotional, physical, spiritual and mental seclusion. Now of course I ended all of those trappings and got my life back a few years ago, but I still live with a small amount of anxiety to this day.
I have gotten better at dealing with it and so can all of you. Stress and anxiety will consume your life in a way that you can’t ever anticipate. There will be times when you will have panic attacks. You won’t be able to breathe or think clearly. These walls are up and it’s like you are living in a vacuum.
You don’t have to let stress and anxiety control and consume your life.
1) Take a much-needed time out.
Take a step back from the problem. Learn to relax. I don’t say this lightly either. Listen, I am the king of not being able to relax. But I am getting better with it and so can you. Try meditation. Listen to some music and say a few prayers to our Almighty God. Try yoga, or at least the breathing. But taking a step back from the problem you will be able to think more clearly and not have so many doubts.
2) Eat properly.
This is key here. If you want to snack that is fine, but try not to skip meals. I am guilty of this myself sometimes. My body is used to lunch and dinner, not breakfast. So this is something I’m trying to work on.
3) Stop drinking.
For those of you who are non-drinkers (like me) this should be no problem. But limit your alcohol intake. Alcohol will do many things, but one thing it will not do is take away the pain. It may give you the feeling that it does, but the next morning you will wake up and be in the same place you were once before. Back when I drank this was a mistake that I made. So don’t let the alcohol control your stress and anxiety, because it will do anything but that.
4) Learn your triggers.
Learn to notice what triggers your anxiety and stress and talk to someone. Now a friend may not be able to be there in every way possible. So don’t rely solely on your friends, this is another mistake I have made. I relied on others for too many things. So talk to a counselor. They can give you the help that your friends just aren’t equipped to deal with.
5) LOL once in a while.
Learn to laugh and recognize that you can’t control everything. This is a common mistake that many have made, myself included. We think that we can control everything and everyone around us. We can’t. The sooner we come to realize that the happier we will be. Learn to manage what you can control and let go of the things you can’t. That goes for people too. We can’t control what others will do, we can only control ourselves. It took me a long time to figure that out.
It may sound quaint, but in times of stress and anxiety just recognize this mantra Let go and let God.