It is officially 2014 and about that time of the year where people have already given up on their New Year’s resolutions. People spend the end of December every year thinking of something to change in his or her life. Whether it be to lose weight, start crafting, or become more organized, people make the conscious decision to change something in their lives to better themselves, and then dedicate the beginning of January to do so. I say this because in my own experience, whenever I’ve made resolutions in the past, I’ve always found myself hitting a bump in the road halfway through January and then deciding whatever my resolution was isn’t for me, then I immediately fall back into my old routines and habits without skipping a beat. So I’m saying it now and I truly mean it, I really dislike the idea of New Year’s resolutions.
The problem for me is that people get too caught up in making resolutions, and for those who fail to meet the standard they have set for themselves, the let down is too much for them. They just give up entirely instead of starting anew, because they have already ruined their resolution, so why continue on? That is really my main issue with making these resolutions, that people don’t pick themselves up after “messing up”, and they instead just drop what they’ve decided to change altogether (I feel similarly about when people give something up for Lent and then once Lent is over, they go back to their old ways like that 40 day period never happened, but that’s for another day).
I’m not shutting the idea of resolutions down entirely.
New Years is a great jumping off point if you have the idea to do something that will better yourself, but by no means a reason to give up when the road gets rocky. Just because you didn’t accomplish what you wanted right in that chunk of time directly after the new year, it doesn’t mean that you need to drop the idea until the following New Year’s Day. Despite what day of the year it is, you’re allowed to make resolutions. If you want to start eating healthier, start eating healthier. If you want to take up new hobbies, take up new hobbies. It doesn’t matter if a day on the calendar tells you it’s okay to start then: just do it. And if you fail, try and try again. You’re allowed to fail, that’s how life works. Don’t give up because you didn’t succeed right away. Take a break and come back to it. Don’t stress yourself out coming up with a resolution only to face bitter disappointment when things don’t go according to plan and you give up all hope. Don’t let a “failed” New Year’s resolution ruin you.
People get too caught up in “all or nothing” mentality. This is unfortunately the popular mentality during the weight loss process. For example, people will mess up eating one day of the week, and instead of starting up again eating healthy the next day, they figure they ruined the entire week, and they’ll start up again the following week instead. That is no way to accomplish a goal. It is extremely important to drive away that mentality if you plan to accomplish anything. If you don’t want that to be how you get through life in general, why allow that to encumber you when facing a resolution?
Yes, I believe it is great and important to set goals for yourself.
But, the problem to me with resolutions is that people focus too much on the end game, a time span, and a starting point. You don’t need to start on a special day of the year to make a difference in your life; Just make a difference in your life.